Choosing Contentment

Philippians 4: 12:  "I have learned the secret of contentment in every situation, whether it be a full stomach or hunger, plenty or want." 

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My sweet grandbabies often spend the night with me and they are early risers, much to my I-really-need-my-coffee-before-interacting dismay.  One rainy morning last week, Swayze (age 3), asked me why it was raining outside. I quickly and sleepily answered, "I don't know, Baby. You'll have to ask God that question."   


With a serious look on her face, she immediately looked up to heaven and with a very loud whisper asked "God, why it 'waining' outside?"  She paused and then looked at me.  "Granna, I not hear him. Why He not answer me yet?"  Bless her heart!  I assured her that God had indeed heard her and I proceeded to take more time answer her question about why the earth needed rain.  She was satisfied and went back to playing. 

How many times do we get frustrated when God doesn't answer our questions immediately? I am embarrassed to admit that I am pretty impatient when it comes to answers of any kind, especially those from God. I think God should answer on my timetable.  I mean, don't my problems heavily outrank the rest of the world's? Mmmmhmmm. . . sometimes I let the frustration over His delayed answers marr the current happiness I have at my fingertips.  

I'd be happier if God would answer me the same day instead of making me keep on praying for things which seem so simple for Him to answer, like: 

~Why won't Lauren would let us be a part of her life?

~Why can't Abbey breathe without struggle?

~Why can't jobs go more smoothly? 

~Why haven't You healed my migraines? 

. . .the list goes on and on and on. 

But what if God never answers another one of my prayers for as long as I live? What if He never moves me, never heals Abbey or me, never changes my current lot in life.  Can I learn to truly be content? 

One of my favorite authors, C. S. Lewis, said: "If you think of this world as a place intended simply for our happiness, you find it quite intolerable; but if you think of it as a place of training and correction, it's not that bad."  In the Philippians verse above, Paul says he had to LEARN to be content. To learn anything takes practice. Hard days and unanswered prayers offer that practice, I suppose.

Recently, I asked my husband Michael: "If God never changes anything for us, and this--working every day for ourselves and struggling to pay our bills--is the way things will be for the rest of our lives, will you be happy?"   He, without hesitation, said "Yes. I would be more than okay with it."  He is content. He enjoys what he's doing. Does he wish we had more working capital? Absolutely. But is he satisfied that we'll be okay no matter what? Absolutely. 

Contentment is really a state of accepting that God's plan for your life is exactly and always the very. best. thing.  And relaxing into that knowledge can release so much worry and doubt and discouragement.  

I am learning, slowly but surely, that true contentment is sincerely acting with the grace which has dramatically changed my heart.  I don't have to care if life goes exactly the way I want, as long as I have Him.

Psalms 17:15: "But as for me, my contentment is not in wealth but in seeing You and knowing all is well between us. And when I awake in heaven, I will be fully satisfied, for I will see You face-to-face." 

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Scripture and a Snapshot--4/8/18

"Abraham named the place “Jehovah provides”—and it still goes by that name to this day." Genesis 22:14

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Joining Jennifer and other amazing bloggers over at A Glimpse of Our Life! (click the box to see more photos and scripture!) 

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If Jesus Went "Live" on Facebook

If you've been on Facebook for any length of time, you've seen individuals, news channels, and business pages who go "live" to reach their audience.  My daughter does this several times a week to sell her LuLaRoe clothing in real time.  It's a pretty neat concept, and it has been a super successful way to interact with the audience.  

Technology never ceases to amaze me.  

So, it got me to thinking. . . what would a Facebook Live from Jesus Christ look like? 

How cool would it be to see a notification pop-up which says "Jesus Christ is now live in Heaven"?!! 

Clicking over to His post, what would you like to see?  

• A strong warrior, fighting off the demons of hell who seek to destroy all goodness?  
• A gentle shepherd, talking lovingly to a group of children?  
• A healer, reaching out and touching the hurting to provide instant relief? 
• A tour guide of sorts, showing us around the portals of heaven and giving us a sneak peek into the eternal glory to come? 
• A messenger of the angels, letting us know our loved ones are safe and happy? 
• A one-on-one session where we can share our problems and get instant answers? 

Oh, the possibilities! While it is so fun to imagine, let me encourage you that Jesus is even closer than a Facebook post. Through the Holy Spirit, through the Word, and even in those times when it seems that God is doing nothing--He is still the sovereign Lord of all creation, and He is constantly at work, bringing about the completion of His perfect plan! And one perfect day, we will see Him face to face--no laptops needed! 

For now, I'm off to check my Facebook notifications. . .

"Then Jesus told him, “You believe because you have seen me. But blessed are those who haven’t seen me and believe anyway.” 

John 20:29

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Flickering Lights

As most of you know, my hubby is a carpenter, and while I have zero carpentry skills, I can attempt to help a tiny bit so he can focus on the important things.  Yesterday, as I was busy sanding some cabinet doors for him over in my little corner of that big warehouse, I kept seeing this pesky fluorescent light directly above me constantly blinking on and off.  Off. On. Buzz, buzz. 

For several days, actually for several weeks, it's been mocking me.  I'll be working away, my work station all lit up and my aging eyes enjoying the extra help.  Then boom--without warning, I can't see what I'm doing.  It really makes me crazy! 

The humming of the ballast in the unit certainly reveals a deeper problem--even if the light bulbs are changed and the ballast is neglected, the problem will not be fixed.  New light bulbs in dying ballasts will only be a temporary repair. The entire ballast and bulb must be replaced, and because that is not a 5-minute repair, it hasn't been done yet and the light is still flickering and still annoying me.  


But as God loves to do with the commonplace things in my life, He reminded me of the metaphor that flickering light offers.  

I can find myself ignoring the humming of the Holy Spirit's voice in my daily life and I can push aside His call on my heart.  Christians can change our clothes, our hair, our home, our church, but none of that will change the final outcome if we don't change from the inside out.  If we ignore the flickering long enough without giving attention to His call, or without obedience and prayers, we will no longer shine--no matter how many outward things we do or say to try to make it seem okay.  

Our lights will only shine with its fullest capacity when we look to His example and allow His voice to be the foundation of our earthly missions.  Change that ballast! Let your light shine! 

"Jesus said to the people, “I am the Light of the world. So if you follow me, you won’t be stumbling through the darkness, for living light will flood your path.” John 8:12

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Morning Glories and the Beauty of God

I’ve always been an early riser and with that comes some wonderful benefits...

• I get the first cup of coffee.
• I get to see the sunrise over the pasture.
• I get to pray without distractions.
• I get to be still enough to listen for God’s voice.

Yesterday, as usual, I woke up early and walked outside to feed the doggies and to take a deep breath of fresh (muggy) air.  Along the fence row, I caught a glimpse of the beautiful morning glories bursting from the vine along the chain link.  For some unknown reason, this species of flower only blooms in the pre-dawn hours and then dies shortly after sunrise. 

Look closely at a morning glory vine and you’ll see that different blooms open up each day and then die.  If you’re not up early enough to see the new blooms, you’re out of luck for the rest of the day.  

And just as clear as you and I standing face-to-face talking, I heard God’s voice that morning.  Not an audible voice, but a realization in my spirit.  I realized how closely the hurting people in our lives mimic those sweet flowers.   How many times have I missed an opportunity to see the beauty of a person because I refused to take time to meet them in their time of need? How many times have I ignored them or turned away because all that I saw at first glance was the invasive, messy ‘vine’ they show to the world? Too many times, I’m ashamed to say.

 

Sometimes the only way to reach a person with the love of Christ is to meet them at the exact moment they are ready to ‘open up’ and share their deep beauty with us.

• It may mean getting up early (or staying up late) to find them.
• It may mean going to the really messy places to find them.
• It may mean giving up your own comfort to find them.
• It may mean spending time with the Lord so you can recognize where to look to find them.
• And finally, it may mean being there every single day, even when things are not so easy for them, in order to gain their trust. 

The effort may be time-consuming, but I promise the reward is worth it. And if we can't be the salt and light in the world, who will? 

"He will give eternal life to those who patiently do the will of God, seeking for the unseen glory and honor and eternal life that He offers." Romans 2:7 

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The More of Less

On my way to take Abbey to a birthday party yesterday, we came to a 4-way stop.  Above it was a blinking red light to alert drivers of the intersection.  Lost in thought and fighting a headache, I sat staring at that red light for a full five seconds, waiting for it to turn green so I could proceed through the intersection. 

Abbey and I got a good laugh out of it and we moved on down the road, but it sure got me to thinking about how distracted I've been lately.  Life is incredulously busy and my brain can hardly handle it all.  The threat of clutter--both physical and spiritual-- is how it keeps our discipleship from being all it can be.  I am quite sure I never fully grasped the concept when I was younger, but boy, do I ever now! 

Less is more! When my children were young, I discovered they would play together and much more happily in a room that was straightened up.  So if their playroom became overwhelmed with toys and a mess, they would move into the areas of the home which were clean and start making a mess playing there. Once their rooms were tidied up again, they would happily play in their own spaces again.  I have observed it over and over, with all the kids who have come into my home--their brains need organization and clutter-free zones, even if they don't understand the "why" of it all.  


Adults are the same way.  We also need organized, uncluttered spaces in our lives. We need quiet time when all we think about are the praises and prayers on our hearts.  We need enough space to be able to voice them earnestly and sincerely to our Lord, who is always eager to listen.  

An actual drawing of my brain. 

In a cluttered mind, prayers can become trite, short, and nothing less than duty.  You see a post on Facebook that requests prayer covering and you type "Praying" or the hands-folded-in-prayer emoji and you move on through your newsfeed, hardly giving it another thought.  Yep. I'm guilty, too.  Superficiality is the curse of our age.  

God desires so much more for us, for our hearts.  He knows that a simpler life means a much more peaceful life.  And please know that while you may want to give away a lot of your possessions (which I recommend), the focus should not be on getting rid of what we have, but rather upon cultivating the disposition of "a life of joyful unconcern for possessions" (Richard J. Foster).

"Deep calls to deep" as the Psalmist penned, and we can live a more spiritually-fulfilling life if we take time to focus on the important things each day.  The work is not our own, but rather of the Lord.'s  He will change our focus if we are willing to let Him have control of our cluttered minds and hearts.  

Find that space, learn to say 'no' to the unimportant, get up five minutes earlier, give away the clothes you've not worn in years, simplify your life.  You won't regret it.  

"If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus." Philipians 4:7



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What to Do After You Say "I Do"

[A letter to my son and his love, who will marry each other this coming weekend. My heart is full. The following is my love letter to them.]

 Dear Connor and Ashley,

I love y’all and I am so happy you’re happy.  As you embark on this exciting time of your lives, my gift to you is to share some of the wisdom that life and the Lord have taught me.  Grab a seat and have fun reading!

• Sleep on it.  Especially big decisions.
• Keep God in the center of both the good and the bad days.
• Don’t work your life away. 
• Rest on Sundays.
• Hold her hair back when she has a throw-up virus.
• Expect that his viruses will always be worse than yours. [Or so I’m told.]
• Go fishing often, even if it’s from the bank.
• Sit close to the front at church and at meetings.
• Pray WITH each other. Even when it’s awkward, say prayers out loud each morning with each other. It will get easier and you will start to crave that time together.
• Pray FOR each other, even when you’re not together.
• Remember that some days you will have to go through the MOTIONS until the EMOTIONS follow. 
• It’s okay to be upset but don’t stop being respectful.
• You don’t have to fix each other’s problems.  Just listen. Hug. Be there.
• Make sure it’s the two of you against the world. Protect your marriage as a sacred entity, because it is.
• Find someone to help each day.
• Be submissive to your husband. Treat your wife as a treasure.
• Put your phone down for important conversations. Make eye contact.
• Be the first to say ‘I’m sorry.’ Make eye contact when you do it.
• Invest in a heated mattress pad with separate controls. Trust me.
• Spend time alone, separately, doing something you want to do. Even Jesus went to the woods for a while.
• Don’t go to bed with a dirty kitchen.
• Sleep on it. Especially big fights.
• Be the first to forgive.
• Treat each other better than you treat your friends.
• Don’t use the past against each other.
• Make a 10-year plan and have fun figuring out how to reach that goal.
• Put back $10 a week. You’ll have $520 by the end of the year.
• Don’t make major decisions when either of you is tired.
• Don’t spend more than $30 without asking each other for input.
• Discover each other’s love language and use it to speak to each other.
• Be each other’s biggest fan and biggest cheerleader.
• Build each other up in front of others.
• Always say goodbye with a kiss.
• Don’t keep a mental (or written) record of wrongs. The world will take care of that for you.
• Always make sure there’s ice cream in the freezer and Pringles in the pantry.
• Set an eating-out budget and stick to it. (And order water and spend that money on a dessert instead.)
• It’s okay to eat hotdogs and boxed mac and cheese on the slim money weeks.
• Put the cap back on the toothpaste.
• Empty a full trashcan.
• Celebrate the special days in special ways. Every time.
• Slow dance in the middle of the den at random times.
• Don’t use credit cards. If you can’t afford it, you don’t need it. If you need it and can’t afford it, ask for help.
• Learn to listen without thinking about what you’re going to say next.
• Pray daily for wisdom and courage, not for things.
• Always wear your seatbelts.
• Make cookies for your neighbors.
• Be kinder than necessary.
• Always check the health/food inspector grade right when you walk in a restaurant. 
• Buy the name-brand toilet paper.
• If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.  Trust your gut. Trust each other.
• Meet deadlines. Keep promises.
• Never grab at a falling knife. And be sure to quickly move your feet.
• Once a year, go somewhere you’ve never been before, even it’s just a few miles away. Have fun exploring where God has placed you.
• Never miss an opportunity to thank a member of the Armed Forces for their service. 
• Once a month, pay for the person in line behind you at the drive-thru. Unless it’s a minivan full of youngin’s. Just kidding.
• Always be proud to be an American.
• Be extra respectful to older people.
• Watch funny Facebook videos together.
• Be happy with what you have while working for what you want.
• Don’t take medicine in the dark.
• If you hear an ambulance siren, say a prayer for those involved.
• Never comment about someone’s weight, especially each other’s.
• Avoid blue dye in foods.
• Always check the expiration date on the milk before you buy it.
• Buy the name-brand paper towels.
• Buy the lotion-filled Kleenex when you’ve got a cold.
• Ask the locals for the best hidden-gem place to eat.
• Keep your smoke alarm batteries changed twice a year. It can save your lives.
• Laugh, laugh, and laugh some more. Life is too stinkin’ hard to not find ways to laugh each day.
• Write love notes to each other.
• Don’t try to change each other. That’s the Holy Spirit’s job.
• Be grateful that God doesn’t answer all your prayers.
• Never order barbeque or shrimp in a restaurant where all the chairs match.
• Share the TV remote.
• Make sure the stove is off before you go to bed.
• Make sure the A/C is off before you leave for the day.
• Make sure the hair straightener is unplugged.
• Don’t go to ATMs at night.
• Be faithful.
• Successful marriage means you have to start over every morning. No, really. You do. But it’s worth it.
• Include your parents in your prayers.
• Read carefully anything that requires your signature.
• Watch a Christmas movie together.
• Honor your parents. Text them often. Call them even more.
• Remember that overnight success can sometimes take fifteen years.
• Keep an extra house key in a safe place.
• Reach out to Godly friends for help when you feel discouraged.
• Read God’s word as often as you possibly can. Download an app. Find a devotional book. Whatever it takes. Hide the verses in your heart.
• Keep an extra car key in a safe place.
• Tithe at least ten percent each paycheck. And tithe on your gross, not your net.
• Develop a family motto. Write it down. Treasure it.
• Be aware that the small stuff is really the big stuff.
• Life may hand you a crapload of hard stuff. Love God anyway.
• Fight hard to see the grace of God in each situation.
• Enjoy this precious season of your lives. 
• Love each other well. The rest will take care of itself.

I love you both so much and I will be praying for God to bless you in ways you never dreamed possible. 

Love, Love, Love,

Mama/April

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